Honeymoon Sickness: Urinary Tract Infections

It’s sometimes called Honeymoon Sickness, as young brides, overdosing on sex, often book themselves in for a doctor’s appointment the minute they get back home. But urinary tract infections (UTI) are not just the domain of the recently married (although sex is a major factor), and with burning urine, aching backs and sometimes high temperatures; they’re far from romantic.

New brides

New bride Jane, 30, is a classic victim of Honeymoon Sickness. She wasn’t sexually active before she was married, and since her wedding night, has had six infections in eight months. “It’s very frustrating being newly married when sex causes so much pain. It doesn’t matter what position we do it in, or whether we use condoms or not. My doctor says that some women are just more prone to it than others (for example ones with a narrow urethra). I’m on a three-month course of Puromylon (an anti-septic of sorts) – I’ve only been on it a month, but so far it seems to be working.”

Research suggests that some women are indeed more prone to it than others, and a recent study indicates that it may have something to do with blood type. Further trials are needed for this theory to be proved, but if it is the case, then scientists believe that a type of vaccine may be developed to help chronic urinary tract infection sufferers like Jane.

Problems with the plumbing

Most women will have problems with the plumbing at some time in their lives, and it is listed as the second most common reported infection by British GPs. For some women it will be a mild or one-off occurrence, but for others it’s a long-term condition that needs to be managed. Men and children may also suffer from urinary tract infections, but they are far less common, although in men (particularly older ones), they are often quite serious.

Urinary tract infections are classified as either upper or lower tract infections. Lower urinary tract infections may be of the urethra (the tube which you urinate through), the ureters (the tubes that carry urine to the bladder) or the bladder itself – this is known as Cystitis. Upper urinary tract infections involve the kidneys (Pyelonephritis) – this is more serious than Cystitis, and will need to be treated with antibiotics. In more serious cases, you may have to spend time in hospital. Urinary tract infections spread from the bottom up, so typically, the kidneys are the last area to be infected.

Symptoms of urinary tract infections

The key is to catch it early. Common symptoms of urinary tract infections are frequent, burning urination (this sometimes just dribbles out even though you were desperate to go), lower back pain, abdominal pain or pain along the ureters, and cloudy, bloody or foul-smelling urine. If kidney infection has occurred, you may have severe pain in the kidney area, a high temperature, headaches, nausea or vomiting.

Causes of urinary tract infections

So what causes it? The urinary system is normally sterile, so when bacteria enter the tract and multiply, infection occurs. Because the outside opening of the urinary system (the meatus) is located near the vagina and the anus, bacteria that occur normally in those areas can enter the meatus and contaminate the urethra. Since the urethra in women is very short, it is easy for such bacteria to enter the bladder and begin an infection. The most common bacteria involved in a urinary tract infection is E-coli, that naturally and harmlessly lives in the bowel, but causes all sorts of problems if it gets into the wrong place.

Other vaginal infections such as thrush mimic the symptoms of a urinary tract infection – these are sexually transmitted and need to be treated separately. A doctor can test to see which infection is present and treat you accordingly. It is not uncommon to have a vaginal infection and a urinary tract infection at the same time, or back-to-back, and many women report that antibiotics used to treat a urinary tract infection can cause thrush. Urinary tract infections may occur when the urinary tract is irritated, bruised or inflamed – this causes bleeding of the tract wall, which in turn leads to an infection.

That’s why sex is one of the major causes. Vigorous sex may bruise the urethra or bladder, particularly when the man is on top. If this is your problem try changing positions. For some women, pregnancy may be the first and last time they experience a urinary tract infection. They are particularly common in early pregnancy when the urethra relaxes and infections spread more easily, and later, when pressure from the enlarging uterus may cause a small amount of urine to remain in the bladder and become stagnant.

Pregnancy and urinary tract infections

Anne, 43, says she has only had two urinary tract infections in her life – immediately after her two pregnancies, and each time after a dose of mastitis. She says: “It was awful – I’ve never had anything that affected my whole body so badly – particularly the pain around the back and raging temperature. But the doctor prescribed antibiotics which cleared it up completely.”

If you are pregnant and suspect a urinary tract infection you should go to see your doctor immediately, as it can possibly cause complications. But for other women, it is not always essential to see a doctor in the early stages of an infection. Most urinary tract infection sufferers learn to manage an infection on their own, by applying a range of self-help methods that are often discovered through trial and error.

Prevention of urinary tract infections

Christine, 60, says that over the years she has learnt to control her urinary tract infections. “During the first 10 years of marriage I had lots of infections, but I learnt to prevent them, and if that wasn’t possible, to treat them. The worst episode was triggered by wearing leggings – I only wear ‘body free’ tights and cotton undies and avoid bubble bath and biological washing powders.

If I do have an attack I drink lots of water, cranberry juice and citra soda. I even spread yoghurt (natural, of course) over the affected area, although this works more for thrush. Alcohol makes it worse and so do sugary things.”

Wearing tight, synthetic clothing is a common trigger, as they don’t allow your nether region to breathe and allow bacteria to fester. Bubble baths, perfumed douches and sanitary pads cause irritation, though for some women tampons have been found to be the culprit. Either way, frequently changing your pad or tampon will minimise the risk of infection.

If you are prone to urinary tract infections, horseriding and cycling can aggravate your condition, as can swimming in a chemically treated pool. Using a diaphragm may also trigger an attack and recent research has shown that spermicidal gel also causes problems.

If sex is your trigger, you should remember to empty your bladder before and after intercourse and wash thoroughly. And speaking of cleaning down below, wiping your anus from front to back will prevent those E-coli getting up the wrong tube.

The bottom line is that if you’re prone to urinary tract infections you need to learn to live with them. But by taking some precautions and treating symptoms aggressively when they first appear, you shouldn’t be heading to the doctor too often.

Home remedies for urinary tract infections

  • Drink a glass of water every half hour to flush out bacteria.
  • Drink cranberry juice – a urinary antiseptic (can also be drunk before and after sex as a preventative measure).
  • Make your urine alkaline by drinking milk, bicarb in water or citra-soda.
  • Avoid acidic food and drink including alcohol, coffee and fruit juice.
  • For pain relief take paracetamol not aspirin (makes urine acidic).
  • Keep warm – a hot water bottle helps.
  • Avoid perfumed soaps, deodorants etc and shower rather than bath.
  • If symptoms don’t disappear in 48 hours, see your doctor.


15 Responses to “Honeymoon Sickness: Urinary Tract Infections”


  1. 1 hoeysm

    Thanks for the great info, i’ve got problems with thrush and canesten is working but im having trouble convincing my partner to use it more so he keeps passing it back to me. I found this website really helpful too niche http://www.what-is-thrush.com

  2. 2 Fiona Veitch Smith

    Glad it helped, Hoeysm. Good luck with convincing your partner to get treated too. Maybe if you held back your favours for a while, he’d be more keen to do it!

  3. 3 Hillary Campbel

    I think this is a great site ! It helped a lot , I just hope i can convince Luke to use it ! Thanks so much ! Also Can you get it if your having to much sex ? Because it doesnt quite hurt when I am having sex but having to much… I think that could be why. It hurts so bad ! I am loving my medicine right now !

  4. 4 Fiona Veitch Smith

    Well I’m not a doctor Hillary, but I think it stands to reason that if you’re having problems after having too much sex, you’re not giving your body enough time to recover between ’sessions’. Also, as Hoeysm pointed out, your partner might have thrush (one of the causes of UTIs) and be passing it back to you every time. Sometimes, less is more!

  5. 5 caroline

    my partner had fungus on his nails, and by touching me kept giving me trush. he was being treated for the fungus (similar to fungus you can have on your feet), but it took a lot of time.

  6. 6 Fiona Veitch Smith

    Just when you thought you were safe! Thank goodness you finally figured out what was causing it.

  7. 7 Yaw

    Thanks for the info, now I understand better what is going on in my wife. We will be calm now and seek treatment immediately.

  8. 8 Fiona Veitch Smith

    Glad to be enlightening men too, Yaw. Good luck with the treatment.

  9. 9 Monica

    try D-Mannos, it works beatifully and you will never need antibiotocks again. Use it at first sign of trouble,follow instructions. Find it on line, it costs about $ 25 and enough for several attacks. It is a natural substance.

  10. 10 Leigh

    This is one of the most helpful things I have read – currently suffering both UTI and thrush. Having both is a pain because stuff like cranberry which is great for UTI isn’t really helpful for thrush. One thing that I can add is the importance of rest!

    Not soaking in a bath is also important even though it gives short term relief and can help you sleep. It definitely makes thrush worse.

  11. 11 Fiona Veitch Smith

    Thanks for the tips Leigh and I hope it clears up soon,

    Fiona

  12. 12 Andrea

    I had a similarly bad experience on my honeymoon. We left the reception for what should have been a 45 minute drive to our hotel. About half way there was a traffic jam, we were stranded between exits on the freeway. After over 3 hours I had to pee like I never had before. It got so bad I was sure I would burst but there were cars on both sides of us with men in them. I told Bill that I couldn’t hold it any longer and felt like I would die if I didn’t get relief. He suggested I pee in a large plastic cup that was in the back seat. I was so desperate I decided to try it. I got out of the car and got in the back seat and managed to remove my panties without much leakage. I held the cup and started to pee. I was so full it only started in a little dribble at first, driving me crazy with the urge to go. Then it came out in such a surge that it knocked the cup out of my hand and I peed all over the floorboard in the back seat. While I was going, the pain never stopped and was so bad I was screaming and crying. After no more would come out I was still in pain but didn’t have that full bloated feeling in my bladder. When we got to the hotel, I was still in pain and could hardly walk because of the burning and pain. We got up to the room, I decided to sit in a warm bath to try and relieve the pain.

    Bill was so turned on by all this that he kept telling me to hurry and go to bed. That was absolutely the last thing I wanted to do but I didn’t want to ruin it for him so I got up and we went to bed. His attempt at foreplay caused be extreme pain but I tried to hide it. When we did it my pee hole was burning so bad I couldn’t help but let out little screams. He thought it was just my passion with the sex. The next morning I was still in extreme pain, he wanted to do it again but I told him I couldn’t because I was still in pain. His disappointment caused me cry again so I held him and we did it but it was worse than the night before for me. That afternoon my period started 3 days early and I felt so bad we decided to go home. I went to my doctor and he said I had strained my urethra and had a UTI. After treatment for 3 days it got worse with a high temperature, I had to go in the hospital with IV antibiotics for 2 days.

    I’m sure this was a large part of the reason and we got divorced a year later.

    Andrea

  13. 13 Fiona Veitch Smith

    Thanks for sharing that in such graphic detail, Andrea :) Sorry about your divorce though.

  14. 14 Andrea

    This event was a turning point in my life. I still feel if there had been no traffic jam I would be happily married today and a completly different (normal) person.

    After the first kidney infection, described above, I had one UTI after another then another sever kidney infection that almost killed me. These were caused (I feel) by my continuing attempt to perform my wifely duties at the insistence of my husband. Since we separated, I have not had any more UTI’s. I intend to live out my life in celibacy. Men and sex have no place in my life and never will again.

  15. 15 Fiona

    Yeah, sounds like this incident revealed your ex’s true colours! Most decent men would be disappointed, yes, but support you through it. There’s far more to a relationship than sex. This seems to have revealed an inherent selfishness in him. Without knowing the situation, so I’m in no position to pass any judgment, it wouldn’t surprise me though if it hadn’t been for this he would have manifested his true nature in another way, another time. Good luck with the celibacy.

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